IS NO ONE FAITHFUL THIS DAYS? DO ALL MEN CHEATS??
✔Here’s what I’ve found through my practice
over the years,To be honest, both men and women cheat.
But that said, men are more likely than
women to cheat and there are some
differences between the sexes when it
comes to cheating.
✔Men are more likely than women to
cheat with someone who is less
attractive than their current partner.
Women cheat up while men are more
opportunistic when it comes to cheating.
✔Men are more likely than women to
have a one-night stand. Women are
more prone to having emotional affairs.
✔Men are less likely to consider leaving
their partners after cheating. When
women cheat, there tends to be more
emotionally involvement, so they are
more likely to consider ending their
✔In order to understand why men cheat, it
helps to understand what causes both men
and women to be unfaithful.
This are the things men & women are looking for when they
✔1. An emotional connection:
When he meets someone new and they accept
him for “who he is” it’s much easier for him to
connect with his emotions and feel that
connection with this new and interesting
Of course when the lust and honeymoon period
are over and the power struggles start to arise
in the new relationship he’ll likely revert to his
well-learned pattern and his struggles will start
all over again. It’s a vicious cycle. Might I
suggest for us men to get our struggle with
power in check
When appreciation stops being quite so obvious
and plentiful from their spouse — and if the
relationship contains a heavy dose of blame
and criticism (as most do) or even possibly
contempt — men start looking for positive
affirmations from others. With the new love
interest everything is wonderful — he is
wonderful — in the first flush of a new
Men want a partner who will listen, who will
volunteer information about their own lives and
discoveries and someone who smiles and
excitedly shares their hopes and dreams.
If this is at all surprising it may be from the
fact that men don’t generally know how to
communicate this. In their existing relationship,
they have the tendency is to think, “We’re
married so therefore I know everything about
you … ” In a new relationship everything is new
and exciting and learning about the new
partner is initially easy and the feeling of
intimate connection is created.
I said it wasn’t all about sex not that sex
wasn’t involved. Men generally do want sex
and obviously the more the better. Sex is one
way that men feel connected to their partner.
Men also feel appreciated and wanted when
they have sex with their partner. So for men,
sex provides the first four items on our list plus
physical pleasure that allows men to focus
totally on the present moment. In a new
relationship the sex tends to be a lot more
frequent. At least initially!
✔So how do we solve this problem???
Hmmmm!! Speak up about what is concerning you or
lacking in your relationship — regardless of the
response that comes up from your partner. If
you want something different in your
relationship, you need to become courageous
and communicate clearly what you want and
what you need, Sexual feelings, like all our other feelings, are
not under our control. Acting on our sexual
feelings is totally under our control. Don’t use
the “I just couldn’t help myself” line to excuse
your behavior because it’s not an excuse. There
is no excuse.
If you really are not fulfilled, sexually or
otherwise in your relationship and you think
that the answer is to cheat, think again. The
answer is to delve into yourself and your
partner and your relationship to create
something new. And if that is not possible then
the answer may be to leave the relationship
openly, clearly and courageously. u may as well tell us what u think.
Prince Engr. E Agwonye